Here in Atlanta a few inches of snow has always caused havoc. The only real surprise is that we are surprised.
Divorce, like bad weather, is complicated:
- Divorce is often unexpected by one of the parties
- Divorce interrupts almost every aspect of our lives
- It is easy to blame the other guy for the divorce mess
- Divorce navigation is treacherous
Whether you are the one who instigated the divorce or the one who was just hit by the snowstorm, divorce is hazardous. Patience and wisdom are necessary to get to a safe place. You just have to plough through.
Like a snow-jam, interruption of our lives by divorce is often total. Your kids feel the pain of their lives radically changing. Nothing will ever be the same for them. Your finances are often completely torn apart and must be re-assembled. You may have to sell your house, move to something smaller, or live with relatives for a while. Every part of a life is subject to the upheaval of a snowstorm and of a divorce.
During our snow mayhem we blamed the broadcasters, the governor, and the school administrators for our problems. Why didn’t they have this all worked out for us? But perhaps some personal responsibility is in order here. Do you carry a spare gas can, warm clothing, or drinking water in your car? Might the divorce be partially your fault?
Regardless how we were caught in the snow, regardless how we become entangled in divorce, let’s take one step at a time in getting prepared. First, attend to body and spirit. You must be strong enough to weather the storm. Then, assemble a team to help navigate the treacherous roads of divorce: a therapist for the emotions, a financial professional for money issues, and an attorney to help with the legal piece.
Before you decide that’s more than you can afford, investigate your options. Do you know that The Justice Café model, created by The Manely Firm P.C., can provide assistance for as little as $75 and not more than $750? At $75 per hour, you just purchase the time your need – with no retainer. That means you can let The Justice Cafe help you with the Child Support Worksheet, or the Financial Affidavit, or whatever seems too iced up to handle alone. And, their intake specialist will also provide you with a list of free and low-cost family resources for the emotional and financial support you need.
Divorce and bad weather happen – each is better traveled with wisdom, integrity, and people you can trust.
– Margot Swann, Engagement Coordinator